Written word helped mother with grief

Long haul: Melissa Desveaux of Ruse with her sons, Damien (left) and Ethan. Picture: Jeff de Pasquale

Long haul: Melissa Desveaux of Ruse with her sons, Damien (left) and Ethan. Picture: Jeff de Pasquale

RUSE'S Melissa Desveaux bares her soul in her book My Life of Loss.

The mother of two dedicated 10 months of late nights to bringing to life a book about her experience of becoming a mother.

"I am not at all an author," she said. "I started with an online blog."

My Life of Loss tells the story of Mrs Desveaux's four miscarriages, one stillbirth and then the birth of two healthy boys.

She hopes the book will promote awareness of child loss during pregnancy as well as reach out to women with similar experiences.

"I first wrote it for myself and then I thought maybe I can put it out there to help somebody else," she said.

"Everybody goes thorough grief differently; I read lots online and there are so many people who have gone thorough [miscarriage] and they don't know what to do or who to turn to.

"So I just thought, 'This book might help them.' "

Encouraged by her husband, Mrs Desveaux shared the truth of her experiences in her book with her friends and family.

She said many had no idea what she had been through: "I had one comment from a friend who said the book was a real eye-opener, and even my sister said she didn't know the whole of it."

Now the proud mother of Damien, 3, and seven-month-old Ethan, she said writing the book had helped her heal.

My Life of Loss is available on Amazon or by visiting mylifeofloss.com.

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